Wednesday, October 7, 2009
on our way home from the playground, Andrew has certain stops that he makes. He has to walk on some stones, talk to a man we always see reading in front of his building and peek through a fence at a swimming pool. I've been noticing more and more lately that Andrew can be quite particular about things. If we didn't stop on our way home to do one of his routines, he would be really upset. The whining, defiant kind of upset. And I really don't like that kind of upset.
I feel like it is a careful, fine line that I stumble along. Do I give him the time and space to do the routines he needs/wants to do? Do I teach him that his needs/wants should not always come first? How do I know if he really needs those kinds of routines or if he is just stalling and trying to control the situation? And what if his needs are to stall and control the situation?
I go back and forth a lot about letting him be and pushing him to be more like I want him to be. Teaching him to be kind and reflective, but accepting him as he is. And there is probably a balance, but I haven't found it.
But don't you worry, I'll keep looking! For now, we'll keep making our stops.