Monday, January 21, 2008
We had a great time. We walked all over Philadelphia and saw a creepy Medical Museum and ate at restaurants that were not necessarily kid-friendly. We saw a movie and after hours of walking the city, we napped.
What I found most striking was nap time. I napped without wondering about Andrew. I didn't worry if he was awake or if he needed something or if my napping was imposing on others because they had to care for him instead. Now, I know that my napping (and the weekend away for that matter) was definitely imposing on our friends that were staying with him. But for some reason, being a few hours away and not being able to do anything about it made me not worry about it too much. I was able to turn off and not worry and just rest.
It was amazing. I had no idea how much care Andrew takes until I was away from him and felt a difference. Not that I mind the amount of care he takes...it just makes me appreciate it more. It makes me appreciate mommy-hood and the work involved more. The day to day lego construction supervision can get a little, well, day to day. And I find it hard to measure what I am really doing as a mommy. It's not like other work, where at the end of the day I can say: I cleaned these rooms, or I wrote this many lessons, or I made a few pies (!). So since it is so hard to measure and really see the work part, it was nice to get away and feel its absence. Feeling its absence made me more aware of its presence.
Being able to fully rest was also in part because each time we called our friends to check in on things everyone seemed to be having a good time. There really was nothing to worry about. Andrew turns into a little host when others watch him. He likes to show off that he knows where things go and how things are done and he loves walking them through his routines.
When we got home everyone was all excited to share about the weekend's adventures. Our friends were able to show us things Andrew learned when we were gone. Andrew was able to bounce from one of us to another feeling cared for by many. And we were able to sit back and appreciate good kids and good friends and good rest.
So glad we went.
During naptime today I made a few little pillows to coordinate with the bench pillow and to try to bring together our mis-matched furniture a bit. For some reason, Dave thinks these little pillows are great. I'm not really sure how they differ from shams, but let's not let on that they really don't.