Thursday, August 28, 2008
I've had several interactions with Other Moms that go something like this:
"How old is your son?"
"Enjoy them while you can. They grow up so fast. My son is 32."
And I store that away. I mentally add it to my To Do list.
1. do the laundry.
2. go to the drugstore for bandaids.
3. enjoy my children.
4. tackle the dishes.
And I do enjoy my children. I laugh at them and with them and about them. I sit and look at them. I listen to them. Take them in. Sometimes I hold Isaac and think, "Ok, Robyn. Now's your chance. enjoy him. Right Now. He won't always be 3 months old." And I try. But I'm not really sure what I am aiming at.
I think for a while I was trying to keep them the age I was appreciating them at. "Andrew! I love that you are 18 months old." Now maybe he'll stay 18 months old a little longer.
I think for a while I was trying to soak in the details so I could remember them. "Look how Andrew eats corn on the cob! Remember that!" But, as Isaac unfolds I realize that there is a lot about Andrew's infancy I've forgotten.
So, although I think I'm enjoying my children, I wonder if I am doing what the Other Moms have in mind. Am I 'enjoying it while I can?'
I've read Other Moms say things like, "When the house gets noisy and chaotic I think, it won't always be like this. I will have plenty of days in a quiet house." And I like that. I feel like I can relate to that one. "Isaac kept me up a lot last night. But most nights, over the course of my life, I will get a full night's sleep." I find that perspective really helpful. A coping strategy really. And a way to take things in stride. It makes the noisy house and the sleepless night not seem so bad.
I guess this is one of the reasons why I scrapbook. So I can have stories and photos of what it is like. What they say. How I feel. So I can step back and step up and enjoy my children at their various ages all throughout their lives. Because Other Moms are right. They will not always be the age they are right now.
What do you do to 'enjoy it while you can'? Whatever it may be for you....