Monday, August 11, 2008

pace



So last night, for various reasons I had a really hard time falling asleep. I think it was due in part to the nap I took in the afternoon and in part because I had all of these things tumbling around in my mind. People I needed to talk to, projects I haven't started, lists I needed to write.

Before turning out the light I was finishing up a book I started a while ago called The Creative Family. The author was talking about little family celebrations and simple, meaningful ways to observe them. Like a little potty training celebration. Having the family recognize the accomplishments of one of it's valued members. But in a really simple way.

I realized I wanted to do those kinds of things. I'd love to make a little cake and have a toast for Andrew after one of life's little milestones. I mean, honestly, I make cakes all of the time anyway...why not align it better?

I think that one of my problems in part is pacing. I kept thinking that I need to slow down. If I slowed down then I would be more thoughtful about commemorating special events in my family. But, if I slow down too much, I get sad and bored and unproductive. So it became clear that I need to adjust my pace.

I am not too clear on what that means, or what it will look like...but it is something I was thinking about and seems to make a lot of sense for me.

And I just thought you should know.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

The mail just came and you are THE BEST!

Anonymous said...

The mail just came and you are THE BEST!

Melissa Belmonte said...

Other mom friends and I have had this discussion so many times. I was JUST thinking about that today. Last week, we spent TOO much time at home, and the kids and I were just not happy about life. And when I'm at home, it's so hard for me to relax and just BE and play and create with my kids rather than thinking about the dirty bathroom or the bills to pay.

Other weeks, we have too many outings and fun things planned, and we don't have enough downtime at home to regroup.

It is really a tricky balance to figure out.

Chris is so good at imagining and playing with the kids- I'm too preoccupied with accomplishing.

Holly said...

A little dose of Vermont should soften the pace. Drive safe!

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