Thursday, February 12, 2009
I'm not sure,
but I think that Andrew is indeed potty trained. I mean he is almost 16, which is how long I was beginning to think this would take. Ok. He's not 16. He's 3 and half. And looking at that now, it doesn't seem that bad. But this road of elimination independence has been long, messy and arduous. Filled with lots of "what is wrong with me!?!?" But I think we are in the clear. In fact, I am going to be bold enough to take "potty train Andrew" off of my To-Do list in my sidebar.
This is not to say there are not "accidents". We still have accidents. And he is still in a diaper at night. But we took a day trip to Philadelphia on Tuesday and he was great. No problems in the car. Used a potty at the museum. Was still dry when we got home. It just seems like he's determined to stay dry. And that was a day I never thought I'd see.
The journaling on this reads:
Before I began potty training Andrew I thought two things about potty training. The first thing I thought was that I would be really good at it. I mean, potty training is all about systems and consistency, right? I could absolutely see myself incorporating fun trips to the potty into the routines of our days. The other thing I thought about potty training was that it was black and white. You were either potty trained, or you were not. What I didn't know about potty training was that I was wrong on both counts.
I am not a good potty trainer. I can be consistent. But then we take trips, or have guests, or I'm tired, or pregnant. And then consistency becomes extremely inconvenient. Also, I think I've come to a place where I realize that Andrew being potty trained has less to do with my skills in training and more to do with his awareness of his body. And understanding that makes a big difference.
And. Potty training is not black and white. There have been many steps in our training process. Months of steps.
And then I go on to outline the steps. You can click on the picture to enlarge it if you want to see the steps. I have a feeling this is page that Andrew will be dying to show his girlfriend when he is 16. Maybe I'll frame it. ;)