Saturday, December 19, 2009
Yesterday, as we were driving home from the hospital, I was struck by how much kindness I encountered during the day. Kindness at every turn, I tell you.
Vanessa showed kindness, by not only taking on my two boys in addition to her own two, but by sending email updates, complete with photos, to settle my frazzled nerves about how they were behaving. I read the updates in the waiting room while wearing overlapping hospital gowns and skid proof booties.
Caitlin showed kindness by picking up the Andrew from preschool, picking up Isaac from Vanessa and taking them home. By the looks of things, there was some pretty intense playing going on around here. And from her stories I am more and more convinced that Andrew thought yesterday was one of the best days ever.
I was also struck by the kindness shown by the staff at the hospital. How they handled my nervous tears. How much they valued human dignity. The care they showed me just dripped with kindness. And I made sure to soak it up.
Dave showed kindness by knowing what I might need before I knew I'd need it. By waiting on me hand and foot, even to take me to the bathroom in the middle of the night. By filling prescriptions, picking up groceries, changing diapers, managing roudy behavior. Doing the work of two parents, one husband and a part time nurse.
Andrew showed me kindness by sneaking out of bed last night while Dave was driving Caitlin home and laying next to me. Telling me about his day. Telling me about the snow that is coming and the Christmas lights he sees out the window and by giving me lots of silly little Andrew kisses on my cheeks and nose.
And my greater community. My sister and sister-in-law and brother and dad and friends, and of course, my mom, that held me so tightly in their thoughts yesterday that I swear I could feel it.
I am doing fine. I am doing more than fine. The surgery went well. The recovery is not as bad as I thought it would be. And I feel so wrapped up in the kindness all around me that it might have just been worth it.
Posted by Dave at 12:59 PM