Monday, June 21, 2010
Beach Week 1: recap
We got back late last night from our first of the summer's two beach weeks. I'm not sure if you remember, but our last beach week, in September, was a rough one. I was pretty nervous about how this week would go, but I was determined to try my darndest to make it work.
I planned some concrete ideas to try. I had a schedule posted on the back of our family's bedroom door for Andrew to refer to so he would know what was coming next. I made sure he had time to himself each day. I payed closer attention to his cues so I would know when to wrap something up and head on to the next thing.
But, more importantly, I keep some more vague ideas in mind. The biggest being, "it's okay." My sister can ask her 3 year old daughter, Avery, to run upstairs and put her swimsuit on, and she does. Andrew isn't able to do something like that by himself yet. And, that's okay. Andrew's cousins wanted to play with him in the sand and share his toys, but Andrew wanted a little time to himself with his favorite yellow truck. And that was okay too. I just kept thinking to myself that Andrew and his needs are a-okay. And that made a huge difference.
Another improvement over our last trip is that Andrew himself has come so far. There is a fan in the bathroom that kicks on when the light is turned on. Andrew hates that fan. Last year he would throw a fit every time we had to use that bathroom. This year, when he heard it, he told me he didn't like it and asked what it was. I was able to explain to him what he was hearing and he understood what I was saying. He told me he was still nervous, but there were no fits. His reaction to the fan really showed me how much he's grown.
The thing I keep thinking about from this week is thank goodness for cousins. Andrew and Isaac have 6 cousins. 3 on my brother's side and 3 on my sisters. As I was looking through the beach photos I kept finding heartwarming shots of my boys interacting with their cousins. They love their cousins and their cousins love them. I am so, so, so glad for these little kids and how they can jump in and meet needs that adults just aren't able to meet in the same way. Cousins are just wicked awesome.
Anyway, we all had a great time, and I can't wait for beach week number 2!!!
Posted by Dave at 11:44 AM