Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Lately I am learning that I have to be an advocate for Andrew.
And every time I think about that, I feel very jealous of the Very Hungry Caterpillar. I wish I could go inside a cocoon for more than two weeks. Lucky caterpillar.
The truth is, I don't want to be an advocate. Advocates are annoying. They rock the boat. They are pushy and nobody likes them. And I want EVERYONE to like me. I don't want to rock the boat. EVER. But, little things are coming up that are showing me that I need to figure out a way to make that role work.
Over the past four days, I've gotten 3 pep talks, from 3 different people, about speaking up for Andrew. It seems the universe is organizing itself to get this message across. Meanwhile, I'm looking for a cocoon to crawl in.
Andrew has had a rough couple of days at school. And he's not getting the support he was getting in preschool and yesterday, when I heard the report from the teacher, I asked to speak to the principal right away. (how annoying!) Andrew's school is brand-spanking-new, which is lovely, but it means not everything is in place yet. Not all of the therapists have been hired, and without the support he's used to, he's starting to flounder. The principal reassured me that help is on the way. The teacher and I made a game plan and she told me over and over that I need to SPEAK UP. Pushy parents get things done.
Why does it have to be like that?
I really don't want to be THAT parent.
Luckily, the staff at this school seem like they are willing and able to work with us. They want the right things to happen too. They seem like good folks to practice my advocacy voice on. It will get easier, right?
Do you find it hard to speak up for yourself too? What do you do about it?
I keep thinking, "the squeaky wheel gets the grease. the squeaky wheel gets the grease." That helps. A little.
But honestly, did you SEE what I baked?!?!
Look at this!!!
Pumpkin Whoopie Pies!!! WHAT?!?! See, the thing is, they look good and all. BUT THEY TASTE AMAZING! Just the kind of thing to turn to when there are no cocoons to hide in. ;) MAKE THEM!